Are you going out with someone who... 

- Is jealous and possessive toward you, won't let you have friends, checks up on you, won't accept breaking up. 
- Tries to control you by being very bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions; doesn't take your opinion seriously. 
- Is scary. You worry about how they will react to things you say or do. Threatens you, uses or owns weapons. 
- Is iolent: has a history of fighting, loses temper quickly, brags about mistreating others. 
- Pressures you for sex, is forceful or scary around sex. Thinks women or girls are sex opbjects. Attempts to manipulate or guilt trip you by saying "If you really loved me you would...". Gets too serious about the relationship too fast. 
- Abuses drugs or alcohol and pressures you to take them. 
- Blames you when they mistreat you. Says you provoked them, pressed their buttons, made them do it, lead them on. 
- Has a history of bad relationships and blames the other person for all the problems. "Girls just don't understand me." 
- Believes that men should be in control and powerful and that women should be passive and submissive. 
- Your friends and family have warned you about the person or told you they were worried for your safety. 

The Mathematics of Battering 

(Okay, I know it looks stupid below like a math problem, but the information it provides is still valuable.) 

Taking Control + Unfair Expectations + Not Taking Girls & Women Seriously = Battering 

Taking Control meansl: 
- giving orders 
- being the boss 
- making decisions for the two of you without consulting the other person 
- being possessive, keeping track of where the other person is, who they talk to, and what they do 
- criticizing her all the time 
- ruining her reputation by spreading rumors 
- getting her back for not doing what you want 

Unfair Expectations are: 
- thinking she owes you sex 
- believing she must agree with you all the time 
- thinking she shouldn't contradict you in public 
- you can question her but she can't question you 
- she must be interested in everything you are interested in 
- thinking you don't need to be interested in what she's interested in 
- expecting her to be availtable all the time 
- expecting her to put up with any mood you're in 
- when you're unhappy, expecting her to feel responsible for making you feel better 
- thinking that you can cheat on her but she can't cheat on you 

Not Taking Girls and Women Seriously means: 
- not listening 
- not respecting their opinions 
- seeing girls as sex objects 
- thinking girls aren't as smart as boys 
- thinking girls are too sensitive, overly emotional, or irrational 
- sexism 

Battering includes: 
- hitting, shoving, pinching, burning, pushing, beating, throwing things, punching walls 
- threatening to hurt someone 
- destroying a person's property, hurting their pets, threatening their family 
- forcing sex on another person 
- keeping someone fearful of you