First, I'm going to start by saying this: I believe there is nothing wrong with having sex outside of marriage as long as it's not just having sex for the sake of having sex. (read: having sex with people you have no emotional attachment to.)
I've had sex with three guys. Only one of which was my boyfriend at the time. I had no emotional attachment to two of them, and very little to the one that was my boyfriend. There are circumstances which surrounded every instance of sex occuring that I'm not willing to explain at the moment, as if I did, it would take forever. So basically, my point in saying this is this: I made mistakes. I realize that now. I wish I had saved myself. Not necessarily for marriage, but for someone that I did actually care about. That I had invested sincere feelings on. However, I can't take them back, but I can learn from them. And I would hope that, after forgiving myself for making these mistakes, that people that truly cared about me could forgive me for making them as well.
Now, on to the main point of this rant. I've just spent the last half hour to fourty minutes trying to convince Greg that he was not the scum of the earth because he lost his virginity. Apparently he told this girl that he's been friends with for an uber long time that he'd had sex a couple of months back. She completely flipped out over it, calling him the "deterioration of the human race", proceeding to tell him to never speak to her ever again.
I've been trying to put it all into perspective for him, but he doesn't seem to want to have anything to do with that, or my logic. I can't say that I blame him, as if I were in the same situation, I wouldn't want to hear it either. In fact, I have been in similar situations, and I didn't want to hear it. But at least later I was thankful for that advice I got, because they were right. Anyways. I keep trying to tell him that if maybe she can just break ties with him, after being friends with him for so long, over something as petty as him losing his virginity, then maybe she's not the kind of friend he needs to have.
He tries to defend her by saying that she's a hardcore Christian. I don't care. That's an excuse, and excuses are so often useless. In my opinion, if she truly considered him a friend, regardless of being Christian or not, she should forgive him for his mistakes. I'm not saying she should be happy about it. It's perfectly fine to be disappointed in a friend for something like this. I was disappointed in Katy when she lost her virginity at 15, but I didn't hate her for it.
< tangent > Unfortunately, a lot of hardcore religious people are like this. This is part of the reason that I have such a hard time with anything dealing with organized religion. My mom raised me to have an open mind. And, having as open of a mind as I do, I have a hard time be trying to be of a religion.
I don't think being gay is wrong. I myself am attracted to women. I prefer men, but if a girl were to come along tomorrow, and I had feelings for her, I would not hesitate. I would not pass them up because love is love is love is love.
There are so many things that religious people are against that I'm not against. And I'm not against them because I don't feel it's my right to have any opposition as to how someone else wants to live their life if they're not hurting anybody else.
While I don't agree with incest, if a brother and sister think that they're in love, then good for them. It's not my place to judge. If there is a God, it's his place to judge. And in that case, whenever it's time for them to be judged, they will be judged how God sees fit. Not how I, nor anybody else does. < /tangent >
So, back on topic. I just feel bad for my poor Greg. It's sucks so much to lose friends, especially over something so petty.
I just don't understand how people can't forgive something they supposedly care for for something so... minute as this. There are so many more things that are worthy of getting your panties in a bunch for. Like rape, poverty, abuse, global warming. Jeeze.
Had Greg told her that he'd murdered someone, I can see her reactions as warranted. But not this.
Feh.